Ask 10 people what they want for the holidays and 10 of them will say to be happy and joyful. But did you know that for many of us being joyful can trigger fear? It’s difficult to wrap your head around the idea that a person can actually be afraid to be happy, however looking at the statistics of depression and sadness during the holidays, it makes sense. Let’s look at some reasons why someone might be afraid to be happy.It starts with the thinking that something good happening in your life means that something bad is lurking around the corner. It’s a “waiting for the other shoe to drop” mentality that may have been formed in childhood in an attempt to somehow keep yourself “safe.” An example of this is when little Sarah returned from camp in sixth grade excited and joyful to return home, only to learn that her grandmother, whom she loved so much, had fallen ill and passed away. For Sarah, the day began with happiness and ended in sorrow. Soon a negative linked was formed that convinced Sarah that if she was happy, it would be followed with something bad. From then on, she would never let herself experience real joy or happiness in an attempt to prevent something bad from happening. So, how can you really have “Happy Holidays” when you deep down fear happiness?
Well, first let’s check in, get dirt honest and see where you are on the “Fear of Happiness Scale”:
Time to “Reflect & Write”
- Are you afraid to let yourself be too happy?
- Do you believe that you don’t deserve to be a happy person?
- When you are happy, do you suspect that something unpleasant is going to happen next?
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